Marital Bond

            As part of the regular culminating activity of  Mel and Joey last Sunday TV Program at GMA-12, a friendly debate was held with the proposal: Resolve that Marriage would be Renewable as Contract!

            What a  topic! Actually, the choice  was deliberate and probably relevant as the issue of divorce, abortion and Reproductive Health Bill is hotly debated in both Congress and Senate today. There were three proponents in both camp. Heading the positive side was no less than the proponent herself, Kris Lawrence and a Lawyer.  On the negative side were  Ms. Sexbomb Rochel Pangilinan, a lady lawyer and another young lady. It was not really that serious, exciting and conclusive debate that characterized similar program of  Pareng Oca Orbos and Mareng Winnie’s engrossing and stimulating  Debate’ in the past where reasons always rule.

            As explained by the proponent love should be maintained from day one all the way as you get older or else. Those in the  negative on the other hand defended the  sanctity of marriage when a couple declares ‘I do’ for better or for worse till death do them part. The lady lawyer further reminded the other side that protection of family as basic institution is right there enshrined in Philippine Constitution to which the other camp begged as the issue needs enabling law whatever he means.

            In sum, the whole funny argument was explainable and it appears that there seems to be no issue at all.  In the end however, the positive camp ruled it over garnering seventy seven percent of the votes cast by audience and low twenty  three percent to the negative side. Well taken but observing how they defended their respective stand, there was indeed  no issue at all to settle.  In other words, be true to your commitment making your marriage works all the way since you tied the knot making you couple as ‘one’,  what is there to renew? Of course, we are ever fallible as we are humans; thus, we are sending sometimes our marriage on the rocks. But just rise up anyway every time we fall because that’s all where the glory of man lies.  That makes in the process our marriage works as it could stand against the test of time making it even more stronger as it tested with fire. What the best way too of  practicing your  commitment and responsibility even more securing the future of your children.

 Renewal of sacred vow? Good that what the Church encourages us to do not jut during anniversary. But make it as pre-condition to severe the sacred ties. That’s stupidity in the highest order as those in the affirmative side are propagating.  No matter how often you would renew it, there’s just no guarantee, if marriage at all would survive. Protect the marital bond at all cost by standing on your commitment  as husband and father to your children and that sure proof of your marriage to survive ad infinitum. Love on the rocks? No problem as not all marriage are made in heaven.  Virtue stays in the middle and for as long each party is willing to bend a little bit towards the center to make their marriage work, survival to far beyond you could imagine is simply tenable.  Can’t take anymore the burden? Use your hotline to God. As we all know, we might have the wisdom to do it but it’s merely foolishness to compare it to God’s, St. Paul says.

            Holding on to your marital bond and sustaining it all the way strengthening your commitment – this is the secret of it all. No need to avail of any contract to renew your marriage. Tinkering with your journey towards life is undoubtedly funny but dangerous. Third option for divorce would still linger in the corner.  Yes indeed it’s your personal choice as you did when you take him or her as partner in life unless the marriage came under the barrel of the gun.

            Obviously, the option for your marriage life to work is all there. Stand by it and you’ll live happily ever after. And take it lightly and you become more of a philosopher seeking all reasons there for you to survive, an option you seem to have customized and politicized marriage which no one is allowed to tinker and  play with. Be a man enough and be counted for good. You need not mangle it as it is designed to last a lifetime.  Magpakatotoo lang and treat your wife as answer not as problem and you could have a successful married life that no one could put asunder. That’s for sure need not any debate too.